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Most of us don’t like drama! Lots of challenging things going on, conversations, shocking life and death situations, relationships, conflict, and war…This was March in a nutshell. A bit of a tornado all around! Letting go of all the drama would seem desirable and an easy thing to do, but it’s harder than you might think! Why is that? I believe it’s because we get addicted to drama sometimes!
I chose this photo of Elbow Falls because while it’s a gentle and small falls, the water is churning there like we often churn inside of ourselves when there’s drama happening. We have a little war brewing inside us, and it spins out of us and affects our relationships and the outside world around us. Either that or we hold it inside, where it wrecks havoc on our physical, mental, and emotional bodies. Where there’s a war inside, there’s a war outside, so the best way to come to peace in ourselves and the world as a whole is to resolve our own war within ourselves.
What Letting Go of Drama Means
Letting go of the drama we hold inside doesn’t mean pushing it down and away, only later to resurface into a burst of anger or other negative emotions. It also doesn’t mean immediately lashing out, and taking it out on others. Rather, it is feeling through the drama and integrating it fully so that you can release what doesn’t serve you, and move forward. It will never release if you don’t fully feel and integrate your feelings and emotions about the drama.
Releasing the drama and letting go can take many forms. You may find it helpful to write some thoughts down, and then burn that page in a safe fire as a release. Maybe you want to punch a punching bag as you feel the drama releasing. Another way is to talk it out with a trusted friend or loved one. Or maybe you want to shake it out in a little dance!
Letting Go of Drama Feels Like Freedom
What you’re trying to feel is freedom. Freedom from pain, sorrow, grief, frustration, chaos, calamity. You know that lightness of being you get when you’ve just cleared out your closet, and given away your clothes to Good Will? Or when you set out on a long road trip, window rolled down, and flying down the highway? Sometimes it’s the ending of a relationship that brings you so much relief and freedom.
Why It’s Harder Than You Think To Let Go
It would seem desirable to let all that drama go – After all, who needs more drama in their lives? But it’s not all that easy sometimes to let things go! As I mentioned, we get addicted to the “action” in our lives. Yes, we can get addicted to drama! It makes life interesting! We feel like we have something to work on, deal with, or overcome! It fills our days, our minds, and our energy.
Recently I had something quite bad happen, and it consumed my time and energy for the entire month of March! I slowly felt better each week after it happened, but I went from stress one week, to exhaustion the next week, to tiredness the following week, and finally feeling better, but still not 100%! As the tension released, and things stabilized, I returned to my neutral space of calm. This felt great to have my normal energy stores back, but at the same time, suddenly all that drama was gone, and I felt lonely without it! Ha!
The Comfort of Negativity
Have you ever experienced how misery loves company? When you feel miserable, sometimes it’s easier to be around others who also feel a bit miserable. Feeling bad and having to come up against someone who is all positive vibes isn’t always a welcome relief! Also, negativity breeds more negativity, and you get addicted to negativity. It becomes habit and then addiction. You start to feel better only when you are in the company of those familiar bad feelings.
What We Don’t Like About Being Free
I suddenly had new space opening in my life, and plenty of time to finish all the things I normally do. While that felt good, I suddenly felt this pang of…What do I do with all this extra time and lack of drama? Not that I became addicted to it, but the drama was feeling familiar enough that without it, I felt like I just had to be. Just “being” is also quite an amazing feeling, but it’s tricky to just “be” when you’re use to “doing”!
Our world is so much about accomplishing things, doing things, and getting things done that we forget how to just “be”! We’d rather keep busy all the time! It’s hard to just let it all go, to just sit down, and feel into our day ahead. In a sense, we feel out of control if we are not busy doing things! Freedom is scary sometimes, just like success is scary sometimes!
Staying in the Attachment Trap Instead of Letting Go of Drama
When we’re scared, we hold on. We hold onto that which doesn’t really serve us because we’re afraid of losing something. Losing control, or losing a relationship for instance. The tighter we hold on though, the less we can move forward, the more stuck we get, and the more we push others away.
Once we recognize that we like to hold on too tightly, we can work on releasing the grip we have on the things we really have no control over anyways. Freedom is ours if we work at letting go. When we do this, we create space for something new. You’re free to create the life you want and make your dreams come true.
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There’s no doubt about it that we don’t want drama in our lives. We may think we do, but really it’s holding us back from moving forward in our lives. By now you know why it’s not that easy to let go of drama, and you have some ideas to help you get unstuck and liberate your soul.
Mantra of Liberation
I will finish off with a beautiful mantra taught to me at a sound healing I went to: “Har Har Mukunday”. “Har” is the creative aspect of infinity, and “Mukunday” is the liberating aspect of the self. When you chant this mantra repeatedly, it helps to liberate you from whatever blockages you are enslaved by. It turns challenges into opportunities, and removes fear. Chanting this mantra will help you in letting go of drama so your soul can be free.
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Lee Spirit is an avid outdoors adventurer with a love for nature, photography, health & fitness, wellness, and spirituality. She helps those who suffer from anxiety & negative thinking to become healthier in mind-body-spirit. Her own personal journey has led her to the study and practice of mindfulness, health, wellness, yoga, spirituality, sound healing, meditation, and personal development for over 20 years. Get mindfulness, meditation, and personal development tips in her Free Natural Mind Healing Report.